How to Ask Questions On The First Date …and Every Date!
Questions are essential to keep the conversation going and make you achieve connection with a woman. Trying to pickup a woman being a performer i.e. performing magic tricks or comedy to make her laugh, usually leads you into becoming her monkey show. You may impress her at the beginning and gain her attention, but leaving herself out and not committed to the conversation makes her soon think that it is your duty to entertain her.
To avoid this, you should drive the interaction quickly into personal and make her open herself to you. If a woman opens herself to you, she leads herself into the thinking: “I am so open to him. I should really like him to feel this comfortable”.
There are people I know that completely bypass the I-should-impress-her-to-grab-her-attention-stage (called Demonstration of Higher Value, or just DHV) and get directly into conversation.
The tricky part here is that usually she won’t open to you, if you don’t open to her first. She will give answers like “I don’t know”, “fine”, “emm.. all kinds of music are ok” and the conversation will become more and more boring. If you catch her being closed to you, talk about you and answer the question regarding your life. Then ask her again, rephrasing your question.
Example:
Wrong way:
YOU: This girl is a musician. I saw her playing the guitar in a bar the other day. What kind of music do you enjoy most?
HER: Emm.. all kinds of music are ok…
YOU: Yes, but there must be a genre you like more.
HER: I am happy with everything.
YOU: Come on, think a little bit and tell me.
HER: Excuse me, I have to go to the toilet…
Right way:
YOU: This girl is a musician. I saw her playing the guitar in a bar the other day. What kind of music do you enjoy most?
HER: Emm.. all kinds of music are ok…
YOU: I know what you mean. When I am listening to the radio I feel connected to whatever music is currently playing. But when it plays good jazz music, I feel very relaxed, and forget about the squalling voice of the old lady in my neighborhood.
(she laughs)
YOU: How about you? Is there a genre that makes you feel special?
HER: Well, I like reggae. When I was younger, I liked going to this club playing reggae and dancing the whole night…
If you would like her to open to you, you should usually open to her first.
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